Below is a listing of ways to indirectly support adoptive parents as well as orphans available for adoption. For specific agencies and resources, please reference the International Resources Page.
One of the major problems that adoptive parents have in preparing for international adoption is funding the adoption. Supporting the parents financially will be a huge blessing to them. This can be completed indirectly in many simple ways. To directly assist adoptive parents, visit the direct involvement section.
There are a variety of organizations who provide assistance to adoptive parents, orphans, and other caregivers. Donating to any of them ultimately helps orphans. Please visit our international adoption resources page to begin your search to an organization you may wish to assist.
There are so many areas for which an adoptive family requires prayer.
- God’s will to be done in their family
- Family unity in the face of tough decisions
- God’s provision for finances
- Preparation of a child for their home
- Preparation of other family and children already in the adoptive family
- Help for the adoptive child to adapt to the new lifestyle
- That travel would go smoothly
- That the paper work could go through smoothly
- For the marriage of the adoptive parents through the travel process
Awareness of Attachment Issues
Children who spend time in orphanages often experience “care by committee.” This results in the child not understanding the dynamics of natural family life. In traditional families, the mother and father serve as primary caretaker. Actions such as providing for the child, comforting when scared or hurt, maintaining hygeine, etc. are not always assumed by adopted children, and these are crucial to forming a good, positive bond between the parents and the child that mimics the bonds of biological children. Adopted children from orphanages often need to be taught this part of family life. Therefore, it is common for newly adoptive families to undergo a period of cocooning, during which time the adoptive parents withdraw from previous social engagements and focus primarily on establishing a strong bond of trust.
Often, friends of the adoptive family, even other family members, can feel put off by the new changes. One of the best ways to support adoptive family members is to understand this time period, respect its necessity and even support the family through that time by helping to undertake their prior responsibilities, offering to watch their other children, and to help other friends and family understand what is happening.
For more information about attachment and bonding, please visit: http://empoweredtoconnect.org/.
Be There Support
Adoptive families can feel alone, especially during the times leading up to the adoption when they are spending a large amount of money, but have little to show for it and in the first few months after bringing home their adoptive child. These families need people to talk to, be friends with, share their feelings and experiences with, and to have people they can count on to help with menial tasks. Many families respond well to being asked for specifics as to what can be done. Also, it may be helpful to ask closer friends and families who know the adoptive family well, as they may not always feel comfortable sharing that they are in need.