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Indirect Support of Domestic Adoption

Indirect Support


Indirect Support

Below is a listing of ways to indirectly support adoptive parents as well as orphans available for

adoption. For specific agencies and resources, please reference the Domestic Resources Page.

Financial

One of the major problems that adoptive parents have in preparing for domestic adoption is

funding the adoption. Supporting the parents financially will be a huge blessing to them. This

can be completed indirectly in many simple ways. To directly assist adoptive parents, visit the

direct support section.

There are a variety of organizations who provide assistance to adoptive parents, orphans, and

other caregivers. Donating to any of them ultimately helps orphans. Please visit our domestic

adoption resources page to begin your search for an organization you may wish to assist.

Prayer

There are so many areas for which an adoptive family requires prayer.

● God’s will to be done in their family

● Family unity in the face of tough decisions

● God’s provision for finances

● Preparation of a child for their home

● Preparation of other family and children already in the adoptive family

● Help for the adoptive child to adapt to the new lifestyle

● That the paperwork could go through smoothly

Awareness of Attachment Issues

Children who spend time in orphanages often experience “care by committee.” This results

in the child not understanding the dynamics of natural family life. In traditional families,

the mother and father serve as primary caretaker. Actions such as providing for the child,

comforting when scared or hurt, maintaining hygeine, etc. are not always assumed by adopted

children, and these are crucial to forming a good, positive bond between the parents and the

child that mimics the bonds of biological children. Adopted children from orphanages often

need to be taught this part of family life. Therefore, it is common for newly adoptive families

to undergo a period of cocooning, during which time the adoptive parents withdraw from

previous social engagements and focus primarily on establishing a strong bond of trust.

Often, friends of the adoptive family, even other family members, can feel put off by the new

changes. One of the best ways to support adoptive family members is to understand this

time period, respect its necessity and even support the family through that time by helping to

undertake their prior responsibilities, offering to watch their other children, and to help other

friends and family understand what is happening.

For more information about attachment and bonding, please visit: http://

empoweredtoconnect.org/.

Be There Support

Adoptive families can feel alone, especially during the times leading up to the adoption when

they are spending a large amount of money, but have little to show for it and in the first few

months after bringing home their adoptive child. These families need people to talk to, be

friends with, share their feelings and experiences with, and to have people they can count on

to help with menial tasks. Many families respond well to being asked for specifics as to what

can be done. Also, it may be helpful to ask closer friends and families who know the adoptive

family well, as they may not always feel comfortable sharing that they are in need.